Parent and/or Guardian Role


Your son/daughter has successfully made a co-curricular team within Harry Ainlay High School. Edmonton Public Schools policy HGDJ.AR states that students meeting their school’s criteria for selection shall be given opportunity to participate in interschool athletic activities, provided that facilities and appropriate staff are available to coach and/or supervise.  As a parent we would like to layout your role in your son/daughter being involved with the team. The following is a guideline for you as a parent:

  • Attend as many games as possible.
  • Be a model, not a critic.  Model appropriate behavior, poise and confidence.
  • Do everything possible to make the athletic experience positive for your son/daughter and others.  Put the goals of the team first.
  • You and the coach(es) share many of the same goals, but your priorities maybe different.  The coach is about the team.
  • View the game with team goals in mind.  Consistently support all the players, coaches, and officials.
  • Attempt to relieve competitive pressure, not increase it.
  • Give the athletic experience to the athlete.
  • Look upon opponents as friends involved in the same experience.
  • Accept the judgment of the officials and coaches.  Demonstrate respect and remain in control.  Parents do not have the right to interact with game officials.
  • Accept the results of each game and do not make excuses.
  • Demonstrate winning with humility and losing with dignity.
  • Focus on the athletic effort and improvement (e.g. athlete-owned “effort goals”), instead of the outcome.
  • Dignify mistakes made by athletes who are giving their best effort (support development of a “mistake mentality”).
  • Allow the coach to be the one to offer advice and correction.  Maintain an encouraging voice.  Only the coach should have an instructional voice.
  • Be an encourager.  Encourage athletes to keep their perspective in both victory and defeat.
  • Line of Communication:

Athlete/Parent – Coach – Department Head of Athletics – Assistant Principal of Athletics – Principal


We all know that winning can be exhilarating, while losing can be tough on parents and players alike.  In the real world, we cannot always be on the winning side, so it is important that you and your child focus not on the outcome but rather on how the game was played.




Owen Young

Department Head of Athletics


How to represent your team on the bench.

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